So, I wanted to share with you all an interesting thing I've learned as you plan a wedding. Everyone expects a bride! I'm sure some of you laugh, some nod in understanding and others have a questioning look on your faces.
Not that this example is wedding related but I wanted to share it with you as its related to my topic. A few weeks ago, Andy and I took E to the Taj Mahal in Atlantic City to see Cirque Dreams. It was amazing. I highly suggest it. The acrobatics are amazing and the set was so colorful and we ...right, sorry, back to the subject. We walked into the Taj from the boardwalk and Andy is immediately held up by a Marriott Timeshare "pusher". You know the kind..."do you have a minute? If you give us a few minutes we'll show you our timeshare and then give you tickets to a show". yada yada yada. E and I didn't notice he's been held up and we keep walking into the gawdy, over the top lobby (which means I love it and that is why I didn't notice he was side tracked").
The timeshare pusher sets her eyes on Andy and starts to stalk her prey. She notices that Andy is looking around and starts her "casual" conversation by saying "Did you lose someone?" "Yes, my husband", he answers. She responds..."you mean your wife". He shoots back, "No, I mean my husband." So, she says again, "You mean your wife?" Andy catches my eye and says to her a bit more strongly as he points to me, "No, I mean my HUSBAND". I walk over and she does one of those "oh...uh...OHHH!" Then, she figures it out and goes right into her spiel. She obviously could care less that we're a same-sex couple. She just wasn't immediately expecting it and I find it humorous that she automatically processes that she's got a missing husband looking for his wife...so lost that he forgets to call her "wife"...duh.
I find that many wedding companies out there have the same mentality. There has to be a bride. We've been working with David's Bridals for the dresses for our groom's maids. (Like that? I just made it up...feel free to use it...maybe it will go viral). When we initially went in to David's Bridals to start looking at what colors we'd like to see on our groom's maids, the fact that they were working with two men was a non-issue. I like that. We've been to the David's Bridals in Deptford and Orlando and had the same great experience. (Actually, I felt like they saw us as a happy diversion to those crazy bridezillas we see in there every time we stop by).
The funny thing about David's Bridals though and most wedding focused companies is the way they find your information in their system. It's through the bride's name and wedding date. When Andy calls about something, the first question David's Bridals asks him is "What's the bride's last name?" He has to say "there is no bride". This is when he finds out how "quick" the person on the other side of the call is. Last week, he volleyed this question back and forth a few times before she figured it out. It took her forever to find us because she kept looking for Andrea Cohen.
Hey all, I want to make it clear that I am in no way saying David's Bridals is some homophobic company. As I mentioned, they've been SO helpful. I know this is something new for them and I'm not expecting them to be WAY ahead of the ball but I look forward to the day when they update the system to show that the bride/groom wedding is not the only wedding out there anymore. I'm sure our lesbian counterparts have the same challenge when they have to help their "bride's men" pick out tuxes at Men's Wearhouse.
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